He takes you to trendy restaurants and shows you off to his friends. Pure grief is not the only reason a widower won't commit. After months of listening to him endlessly extol someone who is not you, it's tough to sustain the nurturing spirit that's said to be part of a woman's DNA. It can overwhelm a man who takes on a new relationship when he mistakenly believes he is emotionally ready.
He loves the attention you lavish on him and he tries to reciprocate. Some women spend years orbiting a world of grief that is not their own.
My question is this – does this apply to widowers as well or is it fair to give him a little more time and just get busy with other things so I don’t put pressure on him?
He says he has always taken it slow in dating and this is nothing new.
They were quiet conversations, for some reason always after Sunday breakfast in the flat Tim had shared with Jane.
They lasted for as long as Tim needed to talk, and I was happy to have them.