You may have sought guidance from friends, therapists, blogs, scriptures, experts, and sexperts. Part of you wants to have sex just to get it over with, so you can stop worrying about it.Another part of you wants to walk away before you make a mess of things.The ladies in my 6-Step Find Hope and Find Him telecourse have been talking about S-E-X. It can also mess up an otherwise budding relationship.This can be a tough topic for women who are dating after 40. Getting this right is about clearly defining the boundary and behavior you will follow under all circumstances.Muster it, girlfriend, and decide if he’s just charming and makes you tingle or if he has real depth and relationship potential.If he’s all tingle and no substance, I say slow the heck down or even run for the hills.Just because a man has sex with a woman, it doesn’t mean that he’s spent even a second of his time deciding whether or not he wants to be with her or have a relationship in the future. a man’s not going to ever “see your worth” just because you’ve slept with him.And more to the point, it is NOT the physical attraction a man feels for a woman, and getting close to her physically, that makes a man really “feel it” for you and want more.
We live in a passive-aggressive culture and are in such a hurry to experiment that we don't particularly care to get to know the person we're dating.
This is key to maintaining your dignity and confidence, not falling for the wrong guy and keeping safe. Answer the question “Is he just hot or is he a hubby?
” If you’re looking for your husband or life companion, you have to approach dating with as much maturity and objectivity as you can muster.
and now he has stopped calling for no apparent reason whatsoever?
I received an email from a reader who went through this exact situation.